When you are the one that comes after…

When you are the one that comes after…

Know that she was broken. Too broken that she thought she wouldn’t love again because she feels that no one can love and accept her like the way he did, the way she deserves. Too broken that she forgot how to smile. She feels the weight of the world. She’s as cold as stone. Too broken that she equates love to pain.

When you are the one that comes after…

Know that she got betrayed by a man whom she thought she would end up with. It was like walking around with a label on her chest saying “Yes, you can betray me. Yes, I was the one who got dumped.” This is going to be very hard for you. Every time you are going to be away, she will think about who you are with, what are you doing, what are you drinking. Are you going to go home or are you going to end up sleeping with another woman? Will you call her when you are done, or will you just apologize the next day pretending you didn’t do anything wrong. She will ask you radical questions from time to time and it would make you mad and when that time comes, please understand her deeply.

When you are the one that comes after…

Know that she doesn’t trust people easily. We all don’t give our trust right away but with the experience she had had, it becomes more difficult now. It took her years to fully trust that man and only took him hours to break it and her. It will be hard for you to make her trust you but do not give up. Don’t give up on her. Make her believe that everyone deserves to be trusted again.

When you are the one that comes after…

Know that insecurities become natural for her. Whenever she asks you about other girls, give her the assurance and security that it is only her that you are thinking of. Do not sugarcoat, too; she hates it. All she needs is assurance and security. She has been to a lot of emotional pain and all she needs is for you to be a bit sensitive.

But when you are the one that comes after…

Know that she loves deeply. She can love like she has never been hurt. She can love like it is the only thing she knows. She is romantic and somehow idealistic. Perhaps, that is the reason why she can still love like there is no tomorrow. She understands and accepts you for whoever you are for she believes that you are greater than your mistakes and she respects you as a whole.

And when you are the one that comes after, please know that she has been waiting for you for a long time.